Tuesday, September 11, 2007

art*~Writer's Island, "My Imaginary Life"



Okay, I know I have to do the Blog Day post! I will, tomorrow. But for Tuesday's post, it is now Writer's Island. So here goes! I am publishing now, I will link it in the morning. Hope you all had a fabulous weekend...xo Blue




For Writer's Island, each Tuesday, there will be a new writing based on the prompt.



This is the inaugural prompt, 'My Imaginary Life'.



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My life is exactly what I always thought it would be. I have two kids, a dog, a business, and a loving "what-ever-he-is". Sometimes he is referred to as husband. Sometimes boyfriend, which at my age...just doesn't work for me. Sometimes he is my partner.


Funny, growing up I never ever pictured getting married. I didn't give it one thought. My girlfriends would cut out magazine photos of wedding gowns. Talk about who they would invite, what would be on the menu for the wedding meal. I listened, nodding. Not really caring. Not really feeling what they were feeling. Couldn't wait to get back to doing other things like swimming, playing monopoly or colouring. "Who do you think you will marry?" they would ask.


"Uh, I dunno," was my sweet and honest reply.


I had no visions of Prince Charming. No delusions of grandeur. No "sweeping me off my feet". No ideas of white gowns or limos, or a live band. No candy covered almonds. No honeymoon. I could have cared less.


I thought of other things. Owning a spa. Inviting my guests in, for a glass of wine, or a hot cup of tea, and having them tell me their stories. We would discuss the latest lipstick colour. They would ask me advice. This was in my mind as a child. I was cosmopolitan. I was a city slicker. I wanted no white picket fence, with daisies lining my driveway. I wanted a penthouse apartment in the sky, overlooking the city. I wanted a Lincoln Continental, with a driver. My pet? A sleek black greyhound, with a diamond collar.


Years went by. My friends all got married. Happy happy! Oh their lives were, uh, perfect? Yeah. Perfect. Or so they would lead you to believe. I was always secretly pitied. Oh, poor Gill. Will he ever ask her to marry him? Why have they not tied the knot yet? Maybe... he doesn't love her.


They would ask me...


"Why aren't you married?"


I would always come up with something to tell them, never really knowing what the answer was. Never understanding why it needed justification.


My telephone rings the other night. My oldest friend (as in, been friends with the longest, 30 years) calls me late. It is almost time for me to go to bed.


She needs advice. Marriage advice. Things aren't going too well.


It would seem, that her imaginary life, the one she had imagined as a child, the one she ended up with, wasn't so ideal after all. Not as perfect, as she would have liked me to believe. I felt sad. I felt bad for her, that her dreams were gone. Her imagined blissful future, was no more.


I looked around. Things were, and are, almost exactly as I had imagined.


I then felt justified. I then decided it was my time to give her some sound advice, about following your heart, instead of your head. About making room for dreams, not logic.


She hung up relieved, happy to some degree that I had helped her sort out her imaginary life.


I then went back to mine, at the kitchen table, where a ton of art supplies waited patiently for me, waited to be molded into the next whim or fancy.


"Coming to bed love?" he yells down the stairs. "I'll leave the light on for you."


"Thanks hon, I'll be up in a few minutes," I holler up the stairs.


Well I don't yet have the penthouse. I don't yet own the Lincoln. But...for not being married (for 17 years), and how terrible a thing that is...I sure feel grateful for this life, my imaginary life.



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Image; A collage I did in January of this year, the theme fits perfectly.

61 comments:

RUTH said...

Love the collage. Manda when she was a child always wante a baby but was adamant that she'd never get married. Nicole is now 14 years old and she and Chris have been "partners" for 15 years. As she says "If it ain't broke why fix it".
Rx

LADY LUXIE said...

Oh' my..oh my!!!..

You aren't married???..

17 years and you aren't married???!!!...

Gaawd'..how blissfully sexy!!!....hee! hee!..

That is sooo romantic!..(sigh)...Oh' how dreamy you wrote everything..I luv' a good sweet story..This deserves a cup of peppermint tea..

lovely

barkfoot said...

Never got the marriage thing! It seems to me that it shows far more commitment to stay together without the safety net of a marriage certificate.
I'm glad you don't yet have the Lincoln or the Penthouse, you've got to have something left to dream for.

adi said...

m going thru a littl diffult phase in life, so dont know how much i'll be able to participate... but yes, there is one thing that i loved a lot, which made me smile... it was ur comment a few posts back, that "i'll be missed" and it brought you real closer to me, and i wondered and still do, how it is that our words and little images bring us together from across the world...haven't you felt something like this before :)
pls do take care gillian
lots of love

Anrosh said...

Hurray for Gillian. Me neither ..never understood the concept of the dreamy wedding and all that goes with it. But I love to attend when my friends invite me over, to share in their happiness

Janet said...

Being married is just a "legal" thing. The real committment is what's important and I don't think anyone who really loves needs a piece of paper to tell them to stay with each other. It sounds as if you have a wonderful, loving relationship so what's another piece of paper! Well, I guess you could use it in a collage!!

Lea said...

How true... to live your imagination and follow the sage advice of your heart! and the collage... it is pure bliss of following that path, your path!!!

Bhavna said...

Touch wood, Gillian! Such beautiful life...and post! :)

Pacchai Milagai said...

lovely post blue... i also like the collage very much.

gautami tripathy said...

Being at peace with what we have got matters.

I would say..live it up girl!

paris parfait said...

I love how you've made your imaginery life a reality that works for you. And I think there's something to be said for not being married. I think it helps keep people from taking each other for granted. I've always thought sameness and routine without whimsy and imagination can kill a relationship. Too many people focus on what others think, rather than on how they feel. You're living proof of a woman living her dreams! Bravo, dear Gillian. xoxox

paris parfait said...

P.S. The collage is fabulous! xo

Gemma said...

Way to go Blue!!!
It is awesome that you are doing your own thing. Raising my glass to you!

tumblewords said...

The collage is superb! Your post is immensely provocative but accessible.

Pauline said...

this was a treat - a woman who knows her own mind and follows her own heart.

Maddie said...

I love that collage - just love the
perky hat and swishy turn of the
head:)

I think you live body time -
not according to watches or rules
or expectations or someone elses
blueprint -

and that is why desite lifes
swoops and turns and
momentary upsets you are -

HAPPY!

hugs!

I am thinking...off the top of my
head -...we should organize a
....weekend and invited
bloggers along to some amazing
little spot - just to journal and
paint and take pictures and
eat and drink and chatter -
and then blog about it.

Yes.

Diesel said...

I like your new profile pic. You definitely aren't one of the ugly people. :)

Lisa M.S. Oceandreamer said...

My darling friend, you - unlike so many others - followed your bliss! By following what speaks to you in your heart of hearts, soul of souls you can look around you and know how very real and natural it is. I've seen many marriages come and go both in family and w/friends...it isn't about the pomp and circumstance. It isn't about the grand affair that is mostly for the guests to ooh and ahh over. It isn't about the magazine images. It's about the "MARRIAGE" itself...and by marriage I mean the joining of two wholes to form a union of love and respect. You've done that in every way that truly counts!
XOXOXOOXO
Big Love,
Lisa

Lisa M.S. Oceandreamer said...

oh and I love the collage!!!
xo

Remiman said...

Gillian,
What a marvelous and insightful dreamer you are. It is about picking and choosing the dreams we want to persue to reality.
I like the way you tell a story, not just the words but the appearance of the written prose. ;)
rel

Robin said...

I love your self-confidence, that ability to follow your heart rather than convention, and it sounds as if it's all worked out beautifully for you. Many "marrieds" would envy the easy, loving way you have with your husband.

So many wonderful posts today. I'm definitely going to like this island (tropical drinks, gorgeous sunsets, great discussions, what's not to like?).

QUASAR9 said...

Well girls are 'taught' to fantasise about prince charming and white weddings, some never grow up, and some just fall in love with the 'wedding' - any monkey in a suit will d0. lol!

A Penthouse eh, is that high enough so that you can look out to your weekend ranch?

Angela said...

Wonderful work! Thanks for sharing it with us!
*HUGS*

cindra said...

Wonderful!~

Great collage too!

You are rockin', sistah.

tinker said...

Lovely collage!
As for dreams and marriages - you are right, I think, about following your heart. Whatever path it may take you on... Also, there are marriages made in heaven and on earth; there are those that are made (temporarily, at least) only on earth (though some of the unhappy participants might say they were made in a much hotter place :) - and then there are those 'marriages of two souls,' that may only be made in heaven without earthly documentation, but can last a lifetime! xo
p.s. I'm so glad you decided to visit the island - great take on the prompt!

Becca said...

From the sounds of it, you've followed you own path to happiness~who could imagine anything better than that??

Love the collage too :)

Mary Timme said...

Oh, Gill,

I'd forgotten to do it until the last moment and then I didn't do it as nicely as you did, but I thought of how I see my imaginary life! I don't remember thinking of those things either and pitied the girls who did. The way I saw it, what they were looking toward was an event, not a life. Sad. We were much smarter in not worrying much about a day, but caring about the days of our lives.

KaiBlueCreations said...

What a blissful vision of intoxicating imaginations and visions you've created Blue..
I love your imaginary life..

Mine was too raw to post..
PEace and love, Kai xx

singleton said...

I imagined your life full of color and love.....
and I see
that it is
just as I imagined!
Beautiful tribute to the way it is....
perfect!

mks said...

Oh I LOVED that post. My favorite line, "I then decided it was my time to give her some sound advice, about following your heart, instead of your head. About making room for dreams, not logic." I need to make sure I follow that. And to have your own spa. I need to read more of your journal. I am glad that we are both on Writer's Island together as "new" writers. See you next week!

PEA said...

A wonderful post dear Blue! I love that you always stayed true to yourself, no matter the peer pressure and what was expected from you. The penthouse and car can come later! hehe I wish I would have listened to my heart...I wouldn't have gotten married at 18 and be stuck in a loveless marriage. UGH! To start all over again...:-) xoxo

Scarlet said...

I think a lot of women will see themselves in you, in what you've written here, especially if they have a creative dream. The most important thing is it's never too late, not for your friend, not for anyone.

This was your best post yet because it was personal and the collage...was the merengue on the cake. ;)

bella said...

How blissful to live your own dream, follow your path, know your own mind and heart and let it guide you.
Is there any better way to live? If so, I've yet to find it.
What makes this kind of living most amazing is that even when it is hard and painful, still, you are the creator and magician, belonging to your own vision.
This was so lovely. as are you.

jillypoet said...

I absolutely love your collage! Can't wait to check out your blog and see more of your art.

Your essay speaks to me. I never dreamed about getting married, either. The, one day, it just sort if happened. I'm not sure if it's a good thing or a bad thing. But I have two beautifu children, and that is the best thing!

Herb Urban said...

This is my first visit to your blog, but certainly not my last! 17 years of commitment is pretty special. Rings be damned!

Clare said...

That's cool that you followed your own heart and knew yourself from an early age -- that's a real gift. I like what you wrote. And your collage is fantastic!
:)

Ps said...

Wow!!!I LOVED the way you said this.
I agree with you 100% about following your heart.
Relationships just grow and flourish when there is a strong foundation of love.Married--not-married--really doesnt matter.

Am sure you'll have the penthouse too.
Yor spa sounds just wonderful.
Beautiful collage too.
Your kitchen table sounds like my idea of heaven!

Donna O'Brien said...

I KNEW you marched to the beat of a different drummer. And no, not the wedding march!
Great writing Shmoo!
D.

Nunu's mum said...

What a lovely, honest post Gillian.

Life is NEVER perfect, but sometimes, it can be nearly perfect when you've got SOMEONE who thinks the world of you and is there ever so faithfully sharing life and it's amazing offerings (children, business, continental limo) with you. Married or not.

Devotion and unwavering loyalty is what counts most at the end of the day. That's what's real.

Fabulous, fabulous collage. You've got such an enviable artistic flair.

Sweetstickychewy said...

Hello..

Came to ya link via Ps's blog .:)

I love the Collage. Attractive!

Its amazing how you never thought of marriage at all and look at your spa as a more better imagination. I find it amazing honestly. Most girls are caught up with the whole picket white fence dream and to think you stood out makes it really pretty. I love the Gusto as a woman i would say!

Rock on!:D

Cheeries.

Maithri said...

What grace and wisdom you speak here,

"Fill your life with dreams not logic"

Words worth framing.

Thanks for sharing the wisdom of an untamed heart,

Love and light to you,

M.

Rose Dewy Knickers said...

Thanks for visiting and I'm glad it was memorable.

I like how you have made your life on your terms, not societies. I can learn from you.

Rose

xo

Naturegirl said...

Life is what you make it and you made yourself a good life..a life filled with passions.. I love the collage the colors..the words..your NEW look here is so fresh! hugs and love to your mom.NG..and to you!

Arch said...

Honestly Blue...who cares if you are married or not...the bottom line is you are 'Happy'

God bless your real life is more beautiful than the imaginary lives of many:-)

Arch

Carmen said...

Dear Gillian:
Bravo!!!
Bravissimo!!!
This gave me goosebumps. You just told "my imaginary life"
I am so glad because I could have been hard to put all of these words together for me;-)
I am so glad you are there and I am wishing for that lincoln to appear in your door house one day, meanwhile Can I join you for a glass of wine to celebrate your fantastic life and that beautiful collage! You are a beautiful person!

Jo said...

I got a real insight into you reading this! Nicely done. I too never fantasised about weddings.....though I did have one and it's going fine LOL.

Dan said...

You know what marriage does? It takes the two of you (him and you) and turns you into three (him, you and the government).

If you both love each other, there's no advantage to it.

Susie Q said...

I have the piece of paper but that is all it is really. IT is the heart commitment...and you have that. You need not go through any ceremony to please anyone. You need only please you!

I have seen far too many who make the wedding THE ultimate and put no thought at all into the coupling.
Those often unravel before they finish paying off the wedding debt!



You are living the life you dreamed about and that is so special, so precious, so rare. You GO girl!

I LOVE the spa picture...how I wish I could be a regular!

Wonderful post!

Hugs,
Sue

somewhere joe said...

I can SO see you stepping out of your limo in front of the penthouse, greyhound in tow. Followed by the girls dripping with shopping bags from Bergdorf...

"Coming to bed love?" he yells down the stairs. "I'll leave the light on for you."

Did I just hear the angels smile?

Rob Kistner said...

This was a very honest and candid bit of writing -- from your heart. Marriage does not mean love and love does not mean marriage -- it's and individual prerogative, and sounds like you chose well! ;)

I'm glad you're an islander!

Pam Aries said...

Wow! Cool! ...What a great post! I a mtrying to catch up! I a mso behind iin all my blogging! More laterrr...

vicci said...

I love the collage Sweets.....and I'm with you about the married thing.....XXXXOOOOO

Britt-Arnhild said...

Her hat......oh, I love it.

Rochambeau said...

Love that you live in your dream. For that you receive the highest compliment you can get!
I appreciate that you have the courage to be unique and be yourself and go for what you love and want!
I'm attracted to you and others that share in the same spirit.

When on the airplane yesterday, I tore out a photo to scan and send you from India.

A Fanciful Twist said...

Hear hear!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I so get you!!My life with my love.. perfect and wonderful and not married.... xxxooo

red tin heart said...

I really like your site. I like the way you write. Sometimes dreams are all that get me through. xo nita

eric1313 said...

Great job, Gillian. My old creative writing prof would have loved you!

And Writer's Island sounds interesting; I'll have to check into it some time! As it is, I get my daily writing fix at Singleton's. She's just really fun and understands me, and isn't affraid to let me know when a rough draft of mine was better than one of the finished poems.

We all need friends like that. And I write every day, because of it. And she does, too. That's what being friends is about.

tongue in cheek said...

Sounds true
sounds honest
sound of love
sounds of you
Wonderful story
of the real things.

Deb said...

This is fantastic Gillian! I smiled while reading through your post ... my Kate could have written it :-}
Yeah for the independent woman making her own dreams happen!!

Richmond Hill Community Forum said...

so I take it you do have a sleek black greyhound with a diamond collar? Hee hee. It is great to be content with your life, and yours sounds cool! I always worry about the girls who dream of the perfect wedding, you sometimes get the impression it is the wedding that is the goal, not the life together afterwards. And the groom is a sort of useful accessory to make the wedding work, rather than the one they couldn't imagine living without!

Richmond Hill Community Forum said...

oops, I forgot I logged in with my local neighbourhood-watch blog name, it's suzi-k here!